The child is impatient because the "now" is all that exists for mom.
Without life experience and with an ability to remember that it is only beginning to develop, young children do not have a real understanding of the concept of "past". Without understanding what is "past", it is not possible to understand the even more complex concept of "future". Without understanding what is "future", it is not possible to understand what is expected. And it is just the expectation that demands patience.
For young children, the idea of time does not seem real because it is not tangible. They can not see it, hear it, taste it, sniff it or touch it. Take the test: Ask a two-year-old child what he did yesterday, and most likely the answer will be a lost caress. Ask if she went to the circus yesterday, and she will tell you everything. She will remember that he went to the circus; he just will not understand that happened yesterday.
For parents whose lives revolve around the notion of time, it is hard to imagine that what controls every minute of your day can be something so ethereal - so unreal - for your child. So, let's talk about how the notion of time enters the lives of little ones ...
HOW THE CHILD LEARNS ABOUT TIME
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CONCRETIZING THE TIME. At the beginning, the concept can be developed through the perception of day and night - light and darkness. Next, the child can begin to associate time with the routine of habits, diaries. For example: breakfast, lunch and dinner are regular events, marked by time, making this notion more concrete.
THE LEARNING OF SEQUENCES. Later, the notion of the passage of time develops, when the child begins to understand the notions of "before" and "after". Dressing the socks before putting on shoes is the very beginning of the notion of sequence, which will later allow the understanding of concepts such as "past" and "future."
TIME MEASUREMENT. The parts that make up the time - seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, etc. - are even more sophisticated concepts, the child will learn from experience with language acquisition - and, I dare say, eventually.
THE HOURS SAY. And, finally, the ability to tell the hours will come to an end when the child begins to recognize and understand the numbers and the number sequences, and to relate those numbers to the daily events guided by time.
TALKING ABOUT TIME
Like many other things in your child's life, the concepts related to time develop naturally through everyday experiences and the words he hears at home. Therefore, it is important to choose the words to talk about time. After all, what "within a minute" means to a child who does not know how long a minute lasts?
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Here are some expressions, based on the notion of time, that we use casually in the daily conversation. Try to imagine what they really mean to your son ...
• soon • as soon as • almost • not for a long time • later • in a second • a moment • a minute • in five minutes • in a moment • only a moment • not now • until • not until • before • during • while • after • yesterday • today • tomorrow • next week • next month • last week • last month • from • once • never • already, already.
Can you imagine why they are impatient?
To help your child understand the notion of time, you will have to "feel it". One of the ways to help in this process is to use words with more concrete meaning. When speaking about time, use specific, contextualized and descriptive words. Here are some examples:
"I'll play in a while"
Choose a specific time and set the timer (if you do not have a kitchen timer, I recommend you buy one), explaining that when the alarm triggers, you play.
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"I'm going to play in a while."
If it can not be specific, contextualize the notion of time, for example: "I'll play later, after dinner."
"I'm going to play with you tomorrow."
When you are not sure that your child is going to understand an abstract concept of time, describe it. For example: "After we wake up in the morning, it will be tomorrow, and then I will play with you."
Well, I can not promise that, by using a more precise language, you will be totally free from the zone of impatience. But a little clarity and a good deal of patience and understanding on your part can make it easier to navigate the area of impatience.
MOVEMENTS OF A MINUTE
PROGRAMMING TIME. If you do not have a kitchen timer, I recommend getting one. Setting the timer and listening to it playing is an excellent sensory reinforcement to help in understanding time measurements. On the other hand, many smartphones carry the timer applications. Or you can choose short songs that your child likes, a minute long, and use them as a timer for these games.
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THE BRILLIANT. Set the timer for one minute (or whatever duration your child can understand) and have fun! Use the following list as a starting point. Then, invent your own movements of a minute! Be careful not to put the emphasis on competitiveness during the execution of these games. The idea is to help your child "feel" time through games and movement. Have fun!
How much can you run in a minute?
How much sand can you put in the sink in a minute?
How many times can you shoot in a minute?
How many blocks can you stack in a minute?
Can you hang on the bars for a minute?
Can you move the toes without stopping for a minute?
Can you hit the ball without stopping for a minute?
Can you stay totally still for a minute?
Can you brush your teeth for a minute?
How many kisses can you give to mom in a minute?
Source Information:
https://www.imom.com/good-character-for-kids-how-to-teach-patience-to-your-kids/
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